On this month's ScreenSkills podcast, we spoke to intimacy coordinator Yarit Dor. After becoming the first intimacy director in London's West End, she moved into the screen industries and has worked on productions like Rivals, Lord of the Rings: The Rings of Power, Peaky Blinders, Supacell and Wicked. She told us all about her role on set, how it has evolved and clarified some of the misconceptions about the position. Here, she shares some of the skills needed to as an intimacy coordinator to succeed on set.
Skill 1: Creating and coaching intimacy choreography for camera
An intimacy coordinator is an essential specialist who helps actors and directors craft intimate action for the camera. This role involves guiding body positioning, applying masking techniques, and adjusting movements to accommodate camera movement. For instance, consider a 180-degree one-shot that arches from one side of the bed, overhead, to the other side while characters are engaged in a simulated sex scene. In such a shot, the choreography needs to ensure that the actors' movements align with the camera, making sure their bodies roll in a specific direction while maintaining modesty. The challenge is to avoid the camera accidentally capturing modesty wear or barriers while achieving a smooth, continuous take. Since rehearsal time is super limited in Film/TV, achieving this requires an intimacy coordinator with training in intimacy choreography and movement coaching, specifically tailored for camera work, much like a stunt coordinator’s expertise.
Skill 2: Understanding basic cinematography
A solid understanding of basic cinematography is vital for an intimacy coordinator. This knowledge allows them to adjust intimacy action, including intimacy equipment, to fit camera shots, camera movement, and lighting. Some actors may also rely on intimacy coordinators for subtle physicality notes, particularly when it comes to shot size and body areas they don’t want seen in a particular way. The intimacy coordinator's basic understanding of cinematography allows them to better communicate with departments on set and is essential to make sure the action is both safe and effective on screen.
Skill 3: Intimacy coordinator’s equipment
An intimacy coordinator must be familiar with the tools of their trade and know how to use them effectively and quickly. Over time, the intimacy coordinator’s toolkit has expanded, and each project may require specific adjustments or innovative solutions. Essential equipment includes modesty garments for various genders and skin tones, barriers (both in-garment and external), and even solutions for water or shower scenes. The ability to adapt the equipment to the unique demands of each production is crucial for a smooth and professional outcome.
Skill 4: Advocacy, communication, and problem solving under pressure
An important aspect of an intimacy coordinator’s role is navigating moments when vision and boundaries clash. In these situations, they must focus on problem-solving while respecting all parties' wishes and ensuring safety and the integrity of their role. Advocacy for others’ consent, boundaries, and rights is not easy and requires balanced communication skills—being empathetic yet assertive. An intimacy coordinator cannot be a people pleaser; they must stand firm on human rights, ethics, and values, even if it means facing pushback. This may include handling frustration from disappointed individuals or potentially losing a job due to standing by ethical standards. Therefore, being a respectful, understanding, and assertive communicator is fundamental.
Skill 5: Head of Department (HOD) skills
As a Lead Intimacy Coordinator on a show, you take on the responsibilities of an HOD. This includes skills in liaison, management, teamwork, mediation, negotiation and trauma-informed practices. For example, during shoot days with many supporting artists performing intimate scenes, you may oversee a team of intimacy coordinators. It’s important to know how to manage this team effectively, ensuring to hire a diverse and inclusive team, while maintaining a cohesive and professional environment. Leadership skills are essential for managing these dynamics, keeping the team motivated, and ensuring the safety and comfort of all involved.
